Chapter 10

In this chapter we learn about small group communication. There are 6 main topics in this chapter which are small group and teams, small group stages, small group format, power in the small group, types of small group and problem solving group.

Groups are formed  in our natural part of life. But small groups are formed out of a few commons :

1. Purpose : It is formed  because of a reason, for example a group of students need to have a group to do their assignment or group projects.

2. Interdependence : We might have to depend on others to survive sometimes, for example we need others skill and talent to obtain a certain goal.

3. Organisation of rules : every house and family has their own rules. So does the small groups, it is the same goes to the small groups and teams. For example, formal meeting will have to wear formally and informal gathering like having a cup of tea to discuss about the plan will have least formal feel.

4. Self-perception as a group : everyone wants to feel belonged to a group that share common things like self beliefs, values, what they like.

Then we learn about small group stages. The picture shown below are the small group stages.

There are few types of group format. The first one is round table. They arrange themselves in circular or semicircular, it is informal type, they share information for example, group assignment or group projects. Then there is the panel. Panel's group members are experts, but it is also informal. There are audience in front to question them an to answer them like Q&A session. For example, the apple event that they wants to lunch a product, someone will speaks and then there are audience from outside or inside that can question them about the product. It can also be a talk show. Other that that there are the symposium, in this kind of groups, each member will deliver a prepared speech or presentation to everyone. This can be a seminars, public speaking or even conferences.

After that we learn that they are power in the small group. First there is legitimate power, it is run by ruler and appointed or lead by the group leader. Then there is the referent power, this power is ruled by agreement. This is chosen or voted by everyone in the group, this occurs because the group may like you or identified with you. Then there is the reward power. This is like something we learn in phycology of adjustment, it consist of positive reinforcement. For example, you did a good job in your company this month so your boss increase your salary. It is like you did something good and you get reward for it. After that, we learn about coercive power. This is by negative reinforcement, like punishment. This is when you did something bad, you will have to suffer the consequences. For example, you did something bad in your group or offended your leader, then you will get kicked out of the group. Then there is the expert power. The export power is you being established as the expert in the context. For example, you know something that everyone don't know so you have the power and authority to do the assignment or lead the assignment. Lastly there is the information power. This is when you communicate good and you will be supported. For example, the public speaker.

After this we learn about the sic critical thinking hat. The picture below will show about the six critical hats. Each shows different thinking:

Chapter 9..

After that lesson we venture into a new chapter which was very interesting. It is chapter 9, friends, lovers and family. First we learn about friendship. Friendship consist of a interpersonal relationship, it must be mutually productive because you have to talk with your friends to build good relationship in that friendship. It is also characterised by positive regards like trust, emotional support and  sharing interest together with each other.

There are three types of friendship we learn which are:

a) The friendship of reciprocity
This is an example of close friends, we share equally in giving and receiving the benefits and rewards in our relationship.

b) The friendship of receptivity
This consists of one person giving and one person receiving. For example, our lecture teaches us and we are receiving the knowledge.

c) The friendship of association
This is similar like the first one, but this kind of friendship does not consist of trust, loyalty, or equally shared relationship. For example, our classmates, neighbour or co-worker.

Furthermore, we learn about the reason for us to seek out friendship and close relationship. There are five reason, the first one which is utility purpose. Sometimes we need helps from our friends like when we do not know how to do our homework we seek out to our friends to help us out. This is to help you to achieve a specific goal. The second one is ego support. We have good and bad times in life, we need friends to support us during our sad times and they might have to ability to encourage us or to support us. And the third one is affirmation. We need friends to help us recognise our attribution, we do not know how good are we or how bad are we, so we need friends to help us recognise ourselves. Then it comes to stimulation. This will help you to expand your idea, they will give you idea and help you to expand your point of view. Lastly security, this is when your friends does nothing to hurt you and does not judge or call attention to your weakness.

The value of friendship will also be affected by culture, gender difference and technology. A different culture would bring different meaning. When you are with your friends you might think that it is good. But some would think that it is a distraction for your work or studies. Other than that, male and female have different point of view in relationships and friendships. Men are sometimes more keen to develop friendship but not true friend. For female are able to keep in touch with other girls friend but tend to get jealous easy. Men would also share less secret compare with females, one of the major reasons is because of ego. Friendship in technology are good for keeping in touch, but nowadays people do not just ignore their friends in the social network but prefer to have online chat rather than meeting up. This will also ruin peoples friendship.

Then we learn in the class is about romantic relationship. There are 6 types of love:

1.Eros : This is a love that people desire to have, this will refer to one's physical attraction or beauty and appearance. Mostly sex and lust becomes the result in this relationships.

2.Ludus : This is a relationship that people seeking for pleasure excitement. This kind of relationships are usually more on guys, they will tend to seek temporary fun and excitement to fulfil their wants and needs. For example friends with benefits, only pleasure seeking and nothing more.

3.Storge : This relationship is peaceful and slow. It is seeking for love but not passionate one. For example, the kings daughter have to get married with the prince even if they do not love each other.

4.Pragma : This relationship is practical by the traditional people. Parents would concern weather that guy could afford to buy you a house or can afford to support your family.

5.Mania :  This kind of relationships would have worries and depress, but at the same time the relationships is still going. For example, you are worried that your boyfriend only like you because you are rich, will he go for other girls if other girls is prettier or richer?

6.Agape : This relationship consist of unconditional love. This relationship has no favour or does not think about benefits like pragma. For example, a parents love their child unconditionally, the baby does not produce anything for their parents but their parents have to take care of the baby.

Lastly we learn about family, there are three types of families:

1. Traditional couples: The conventional form of a family, they shared values, beliefs, tolerance for one another.

2. Independent couples: Individuals in this family setting stresses individuality as the main theme in the family. Nowadays this is how the modern family is.

3. Separate couples: Family setting is not really a family but either one in this family stay together for a common benefit like paying the rent, sharing living space.

Chapter 8

Th next class continues, it is a new chapter but it is still related. We learn more about relationship stages and theories. After we developed a good sense and etiquette to bring out our conversations,  we can identify the effectiveness of interpersonal communication that can form and relate to relationships around us.

The picture above shown the relationship stages. The first one is contact, which one people are aware of another people existence, it is mostly impersonal and ritualise. In this stage, perception and interaction take place. The second stage of relationship is where people have tighter bonds and engagements with other people, expect light bonds of friendship and added into the friend zone. At this stage, testing and intensifying stages take place. At the testing stage people would ask: “Hey, do you want to go somewhere for a movie?”; “Do you like this subject?” Then the intensifying stage can be be identify as he amount of commitments you committed to that someone. For example, dating someone or having appointment with your friend. The third stage which is intimacy, during the third stage you would be comfortable and able to believe that person. Interpersonal commitment and social bonding will take place at this moment. After that comes the deterioration. This stage is where friends fall apart because some of the factors might or will affect each others relationship. For example, cultural factors, which your family or yourself do not like a certain culture. We would be consider very luck if we are still close friends with our primary school friends or childhood friends, because after we grow up we would have different thinking and that thinking might not satisfied you with your friends. After that it comes to repair, repair is the fifth stage of relationship which those who are affected in the fourth stage deterioration which you try to work things out with others. At this stage, intrapersonal and interpersonal repairs will occur. For example interpersonal, you may consider changing your behaviour or your thinking for your friends instead of changing your friends thinking. For interpersonal, you would talk and discuss properly with the problems your and your friends had. came back as angers like before. At this stage, interpersonal and social separation occurs. For example, you separate yourself from your friends because you don’t like people who smokes or people who irritates you that much. For interpersonal separation, you may not see each other anymore and may not return messages, for example you broke up with your girlfriend and you don't tend to talk to her anymore because she broker your heart.

After that we learn about relationship theories, there are 6 of them which includes:

1. Attraction Theory
2. Relationship Rules Theory
3. Relationship Dialectics Theory
4. Social Penetration Theory
5. Social Exchange Theory
6. Equity Theory

In attraction theory there are four types. The first one is similarity, it is the attraction to a certain someone who has belief or same ideas with you. Second is proximity, it is an attraction to someone who are close to you. For example in a range or a specific location. The third one is reinforcement, which attracts you to an individuals who reinforces your same personality and lifestyle. Lastly theres physical attractiveness and personality. It is an attraction to physical and mental attributes, for example your physical body like your charming face. Then the second relationship theory is the relationship rules theory there are four different relationships and they have different relationship levels and attributes. The first one is friendship rules. For example best friends and normal friends which we have to respect the rules and boundaries. The second one is romantic rules, it is almost same as the friendship rules but it is more to couple like in a relationships. The third one is family rule. Different family has different rules in their family, like traditional family it is a must to have dinner every night at home. Lastly there is the workplace rules. Different roles of your position in your workplace will affect the relationship. For example, the CEO of the company will have a gap between the waiters and chefs. After that, it comes relationship dialectics theory. There are three pairs of opposites which are closeness and openness, this i when an someone likes to have others attention and at the same time they like to be involve in one of a society or a group of friends. Then there is the autonomy and connection. This occurs when someone like to have both independency and dependency towards one another. Lastly there is the novelty and predictability. This is when someone that like special things, for example surprises or uniqueness and he or she is able to predict things and make it within the schedules planned. This is why there are people with high ambiguity and some other has low ambiguity. Furthermore, we learn about the social penetration theory,  when normal friends we will have normal activity like hanging out, when we are with our partners like girlfriends or boy friends we might hangout even more and even kissing. The relationship goes in deeper, the more you know the person the more you can or will talk with him, this will make the conversation deeper and more meaningful. After that, we learn the fifth relationship theory which is the social exchange theory, this will bring benefits when forming relationship with someone. Lastly there is the equity theory, this theory is more on forming professional relationship with people.

After that we learn about the dark side of interpersonal relationship. When our relationship gets complicated, it may lead to ugly things in life and with one people, this includes siblings and close friends.

One of the most common example is jealousy, or the other words called envy.

Below are the different types of jealous that may occur in our daily life:
a. Cognitive jealousy
b. Emotional jealousy
c. Behavioral jealousy

Cognitive jealousy occurs in our everyday life. For example, your groups of friends went out together for a movie but they didn't invite you because they could not contact you and you do not believe them, this is an example of cognitive jealousy. For emotion jealousy, it is seeing someone you like react to something that you could not control. For example, you are jealous that your girlfriend replying another guys text messages. Then there is the behavioural jealousy, this occurs when something changes and take place and that individual starts to get jealous. For example, you read your boyfriends text message to see weather he cheated on you or not.

At the end of the chapter, we learn the last thing which is relationship violence. This occurs when a relationship with someone is bad or it is hanging around. There are three types which are physical abuse, verbal or emotional abuse, it can also be from the internet like Facebook, and sexual abuse. 

Chapter 7

Next we learn about interpersonal communication, it is between sender and receiver from one to another and it requires more than 1 person.

Next the lecture taught us about the conversation process:

1. Opening – First step in conversation. For example, "Hello."

2. Feedforward – The second step of conversation, to open the channels of communication. For example “it is a nice day, isn’t?”.

2) preview future message “Hey, I have some good news”.

3. Business – The third stage and the ‘message’ portion.

4. Feedback – The fourth stage and response stage. “I understand what you're saying”.

5. Closing – The last stage. Most people say “goodbye!”



Then we learn about principles of conversation. There are three types which are principle of turn taking, principle of dialogue and principle of immediacy. Principle of turn taking is the conversation exchange of roles of between a speaker and listener, it can be consider as an exchanges of cues which it is called the conversational turns.

The picture above are the principles of turn taking. The first one which is turn maintaining are used by speaker. It is used to maintain the conversation with the listener, for example using eye contact or paralanguage. Then next there is the Turn yielding. Turn yielding are also used by speaker but this action occur when the speaker are done talking and they want to listen or wants to know the feedback, the speaker will give a gesture or giving some cues like "what do you think?" Furthermore, there is turn requesting. It is used by listener, when they wants to speak or to give feedback. The listener will gives a sign like butting in conversation or gives a sign that they wants to talk. Lastly, there is turn-denying. Turn denying are used by listener, this is to indicate that the listener is not responsive for example, shaking his head or not paying attention.

After that, we learn about the everyday conversation which we use everyday, this includes small talks, excuses and apologies, complimenting and advice. In our daily life we use excuses and apologies a lot. There are a few types of excuses that we use everyday which are the etiquette to maintain for excuses:

1. I Didn’t do it : This is when you strongly decline that you did it

2. It wasn’t so bad : Mid to neutral stand. You will tend to make the situation from worst to bad or  neutral.

3. Yes, but : This is when you admitted that your wrong but  you are still defensive towards your involvement

Beside the etiquette of excuse there are also etiquette for apologies. This is to maintain an open position and apologize if you are in the wrong. For example you say what you did like you really mean it. Then there is the etiquette of compliments. There are two types of compliments which is qualified compliment and unqualified compliment. For qualified compliment are used to praises someone who really justifies the words. For example someone who score very for a certain behaviours or intentions. For example, you told your teacher that she is very beautiful just because you want some tips from her it is not because that she is really beautiful.  Besides that, there are also complimenting and advice, everyone will have two options when they receives compliments, which is denial and acceptance. For example, people who says your welcome or thank you, or even smile with you are consider as acceptance. Then for denial, if you think that she is beautiful and you told her that she is beautiful but she denied it and said she looks terrible, that is denial.  Further more, there are also a few types of advices, this is also called meta-advices. The first one is explore options this is to advise others to seek out alternatives. For example, your friend never bought a car before, how will you advice her? Next, there is the expert advice or called second opinion. This is to advise others to emphasize or de-emphasize their beliefs and inclinations. (For example, your friend having a high fever, how would you advice him? Then there is the delay decision, this is too delay his or her decision, they wait for others to act. For example, your friend has two weeks to decide whether to go out with his family or friends, how would you advice? 

Chapter 6 (Part B)

The next part is all about communication, but it is a non-verbal communication. The video below is some examples of non-verbal communication.            

So for everyone including your friends, family, your lecture, or even boss will have a proxemic distances it is the specific distances you maintain between you yourself and others. It also depends on a variety of factors for example, cultural, gender, age, and personality. Edward Hall distinguishes four distances that define the type of relationships between people which is intimate space, personal space, social space and public space. The picture below shows the four types of distance that represent types of relationships between you and other people.

After that we learned about three types of territoriality, which is primary, secondary and public territories. The primary territories are areas which is your own, like your room, your seat or your school desk. The secondary territories are areas that you do not own, but you have already occupied. For example, you always eat at the same place in the canteen, or the place you always seat during english class. Public territories are open to everyone, for example the cinema hall or shopping mall.

Our primary and secondary territories are designate with 3 types of markers. First one is central markers. An item is placed to reserve a territory, for example leaving your bag on the seat that you want. Second is boundary markers. This is to set boundaries between your territory and that of others, such as the arm-rester separating your seat from other people on each side of the seat at a movie theater. The third one is ear markers. This is to identify the marks that indicate your possession of a territory or object, for example, name tags, trademarks, your signature.

Then we learn about artificial communication. In artificial communication there are colour communication. Colour communication evidence and suggest that colours that may influence our psychology or our perceptions and behaviour. Next is clothing and body adornment, people make inferences about who you are by the way you dress,  your hairstyle, your clothing, and even your tattoos. The last one is space decoration,people make inferences about you based on how you decorate your personal spaces for example your home, your office. How you decorate your private spaces communicates who you are. For example if you are a lazy person you would leave the house messy, or if you are a creative person you would paint your room with colourful colours.

After that we learn about smell communication. There are four types of category in smell communication which is attraction message, taste, memory and identification messages.

Then we learn about time communication. Time communication is use to treat, organise, and to react to time. Then the lecture taught us about culture and gestures Not all gestures is usable in all the country. For example, using the thumbs up meaning in Brazil or Argentina is a bad word.

Chapter 6

We learn about verbal message and in this chapter it is all about non-verbal message and non-verbal communication. Some of us had already learned about this non-verbal communication in oral communication last semester. But in this chapter we learn even deeper about the non-verbal message and communication. It is actually a communication but without words, but using gestures, body language, eye contact and everything that you can sense or develop other than hearing words. And then we learn about the benefits that most of us did not realise at all, which is the greater your ability to send and receive nonverbal signals, the higher your attraction, popularity, and psychological well-being are likely to be, and the other one is the greater your nonverbal skills is, the more powerful you will likely to be at influencing others.

 Then the lecture taught us about the integrating non-verbal and verbal message. It may use to form or complement impression. The picture below are some of the examples that made to you and from you.

Then we learn about the importance of non-verbal gestures and communications that used in various stages of relationships. When you are with employers, you appear professional and smart during work so they will give you respect and feel conformable to talk with you. For normal friends you adopt a openly and fluently look so that your friends would like to talk with you. Then for your best friends, most people would not hide anything by just letting it all out. Lastly, for your first few dates with your girlfriend or boyfriend you would be more polite and generous, but after that you would not care much about each other image in front of each other.

After that we learned about tun taking cues. For example, you would want others to reply you or want  others to answer you. The most common one that people use for example "what do you think?" or "is this good?" But most of them are non verbal, nod of your head, eye contact and more.

Then the lecture taught us about the channels of non verbal communication. The picture below are the channels of non-verbal communication:

Chapter 5 (Part B)

Then chapter 5 continues. We learn about disconfirmation and confirmation towards racism, sexism and ageism. Racism is anything to make race looks inferior to another race. For example, an employer only hire Chinese worker and do not want black skin people to work with him. Sexism is to support only towards a specific gender. For example  only trust male worker instead of female worker. Then there is ageism. It is also one of a discrimination based on age. For example, old people in the society are not welcome compare to the young generation teenagers.

Then we learn more about using verbal messages effectively.

1. Symbolise reality 

2. Express both facts and inference

3. Be relatively static

4. Obscure distinctions 

Before the class ends, the lecture grouped us into a pairs and find out any relevant racism, sexism, heterosexism and ageism examples in our daily lives. 

Chapter 5 (Part A)

The next chapter that we are going to learn is all about verbal message. The first thing we learn in the class is message. Message is an interaction among the communication using verbal or noon verbal message. Verbal means by using words to decode your message and non verbal is by using gestures, or body movements. For example, deaf people use body language and finger gesture to communicate with each other.

Furthermore, the lecture had taught us about principles of verbal messages.

1. Message meaning are in people
2. Meaning are denotative and connotative
3. Meaning depend on context or abstraction
4. Messsage vary in politeness
5. Message vary in assertiveness
6. Message can deceive

Other than that, there are 4 types of lies we learn that dat which is pro-social deception, self enhancing deception, selfish deception and anti-social deception. Pro-social deception is to achieve something good. For example, you lie to someone in business to earn more money. Self-enchancing deception is to make yourself look good. For example, you lie to everyone that you got a very good result because you want others to know that you study very hard. Selfish deception is to protect yourself. For example, you lie your parents that you did not take the money just because that you want to protect yourself from being cane. Anti-social deception is to harm someone. You lie to your friend's girlfriend that he betray and cheated on you because you want them to break up.

Then we learn about disconfirmation and confirmation. Disconfirmation is completely ignoring the sense's message in his presence.  Confirmation is letting the sender say what he or she wanted to say and at the same time acknowledging the message and the sender. Lastly we learn about rejection. unwilling to accept something that a person says.

Chapter 4 continues...

The class continues, we learned more about the chapter "The self". We learned about self disclosure.  At first I thought that self disclosure was only revealing your own self, tell others about yourself. Then I only know that self disclosure is actually an act of telling others about things that they would not know about you. Self disclosure plays an important role of being true to yourself.

So after the lecture explained all about the basics things of self disclosure, we further it to the factors that will influence our self disclosure. There are 5 factors that will affect your self disclosure, firstly is who you are, your culture, your gender, your listeners, either in small groups or large groups, and lastly your topics and channels. The advantage you can get from self disclosure is that you can gain confident from it, other than that you will lose trust and confident if things goes wrong, you might even live with regrets. So that day during this lecture class I learn that self disclosure is very important and I learned that not to simply revealed my self too much to new friends.

So before the class ended the lecture gave us a little activity in the class, the chosen one will have to to tell each other about what they think about each other in front of everyone.

Chapter 4

This chapter is all about self ! Self-concept, self-awareness, self-esteem, self-disclosure. First thing is about self concept, "it is how you feel about yourself." It is the image of who you are.

These are the facts that will affects your self-concept:
1. Social Comparison
-we compare ourself and adjust our self towards the way that society act and thinks. For example, if the society thinks that smoking weeds is awesome, there is a chance that we might follow. When we followed, our self-concept will be ruin because of smoking weeds.

2. Other’s Images of you
-we compare ourself with our friends, family. For example, we tend to ask our friend for their quiz marks if we get high, this is because we want to seek for comparison.

3. Self interpretations & evaluations
-the standards that applies towards your ethical and moral reasoning, beliefs and comprehension and conformity things around you. Some people think that lying is okay, it is part of everyday life. And some might think lying is wrong.

After that we learned about self-awareness. Self-awareness are the things that you know about yourself. A process of discovering your personal development and understanding.

This is the Johari Window. Some of us learn this during the last semester on the oral communication. But after the class I learned more about this Johari Window. There are 4 different windows in the Johari Window. On the top left is called open arena, it is known by self and know by others, meaning to say that it is known to everyone and to you, for example your hair is brown colour. Then one the lower left is called the facade, no one knows but yourself. It is your hidden self, for example something that only you know like you made up a story that you are very rich but only you yourself know that your are poor and you don't want to show that to anyone. Then there is the blind spot, the top right. It is known by others but unknown by yourself. For example you might do something annoying when your nervous but you don't realise it but everyone in the class does. And lastly there is the unknown on the lower right, it is unknown by self and by others. For example, a natural ability to roll your tongue that you and other people didn't realise yet.

And here are the 4 steps to grow in your self awareness.
1.Listen to others
2.Increase your open self
3.Seek information about yourself

4.Dialogue with yourself

After that we learned about self esteem. It is the most interesting part in this class for me. It means the confident or the level of trust towards yourself. In this class I learned that it is good that we can have high self esteem but don't over it, because too much could be bad for you if you didn't achieve it.

And here are the 4 facts to increase your self esteem
1.Attack self-destructive belief
2.Seek out Nourishing people
3.Work on project that will result in success
4.Remind yourself of your success
5.Secure affirmation

Before the class ended the lecture gave us a small task. We need to list down the characteristic of those who have high self esteem and low self esteem. We have to compare and contrast it. This is only half of the chapter, we stopped here and the class will continue on tomorrow, I was very excited for tomorrows class because I'm very interesting in this chapter 4.

Chapter 3..

This chapter is all about listening. Listening is very important i guess, but after i learn about this chapter i felt that listening is as important as interpreting the message the right way. Listening is a specialised process, it is a type of perception which you receive auditory signals from spoken words or even non verbal message. After that i only know that hearing and listening are both different things. Hearing is just the basic step of receiving sound and it is not the same as listening.

The picture above are the 5 stages of listening. After the lecture explained to us how every stages works, the lecture asked us to memorise these words in 2 minutes. I actually memorise 17 of them, actually how did I memorise so many words in just 2 minutes? Our minds can summarise the message in easier ways for us to remember and we repeat the keywords and names to remember them. Some we categorise them into groups to make us remember them clearly.

After that, we learned about diversity of listening & culture.
1.Language and speech
-different people who use different language or culture are a difference in meaning.

2.Non-verval behavioral differences
-people from different culture have their own display of rules. For example, for some countries  showing middle finger is just a normal non-verbal message, not a bad one. But for most of the countries showing our middle finger are bad.

3.Direct and indirect styles
-direct style is saying what you mean. For indirect styles, people usually turn a big circle to tell someone that they are wrong. For example, your brother did wrong and you didn't wanted to hurt his feelings so you turn a big circle to tell him that he is wrong instead of saying it directly.

4.Balance of story versus evidence
-in other countries, people want evidence before making decisions rather than critical thinking

5.Credibility
-culture will depends weather a speaker will be credibility or not.

6.feedback
-for some people they would give a direct and honest, 'truth' feedback. It could be positive and it could be negative. But some other culture thinks that it is more important to give only 'positive' feedback weather the situation is positive or negative. They want the feedback to be positive rather than truthful.

Other than that, there are 4 ways that we can listen effectively. One of them are participatory and passive listening. The key to effective listening is to participate, either physically or mentally. Secondly is emphatic and objective listening, meaning + feelings = emphaty
Emphatic listening is a means for both increasing understanding and for enhancing relationships. Furthermore, there are nonjudgmental and critical listening. Effective listening includes both nonjudgmental and critical responses. For example, we open our mind to learn things from our lecture, to understand the message and then evaluate them or to judge the message weather knowledge the knowledge is useful to us. Then there is this surface and depth listening, for example, do your like my new shirt? That person could be asking about his or her appearance.

So the next class continues.. We learn about perception, which is in chapter 2. Perception is continuous process of life, the impression that others give you and what you project to others. Perception is one of the most important element in communication. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DadIBPZVaNE

The video above shows us that we cannot judge too quickly and everything about perception.

The lecture shown us some pictures and ask us about our perception. Some students in the class may see more than one thing, and some may see differently. Here are some of the pictures that the lecture shown us.

So what can you see from this picture? Some may say it is a cup? Some said it has two faces facing each other. From my first sight I only saw the two faces, until the lecture told us it has another picture in it only that I knew.

From the left, some may see a guy playing saxophone, and some may see a lady's face. And from the right, some may see an old lady, and some may see a sweet lady looking back. I only saw  the lady looking back, but until the lecture told us about the nose of that old lady, then i only realise.

We also learn that the 5 things that will influence your perception.

Processes influencing perception
1. Implicit personality theory
=> Your own opinion about something else or someone's characteristics. This is also known as halo effect.

2. The self-fulfilling prophecy
=> People who have bad traits may make other thinks that they are bad, and may bring a bad influence to you. But this is only what you think. It might not be true. This is known as reverse halo effect.

3. Primacy-recency
=> It makes prediction and then proceed to fulfillment

4. Consistency
=> Expected things from someone to have characteristic like that.

5. Attribution
=> The process through which people discover why people do what they do.

So lastly the lecture put us into small group and questioned us "How to make perception more accurate?" So all of us came out with a lots of different answers. The answer that the lecture gave are analyse impression, check perception, reduce uncertainty and increase culture sensitivity.

Charpter 1

So after the first day of class, the second day was the first lecture. I already learned that communication is the process of conveying message by sending and receiving, but i don't know is "human communication". So human communication is actually focus on understanding how people communicate in different ways . For example spoken words, body language, facial language, emotions and many more. I found out that communication skills is needed for many things. Asking for direction, interviewing for a job, and even meeting your lover, all of these requires communication skills.

I know that interpersonal communication require more than 2 or more people, but after this class today, i only know that Intrapersonal communication is actually talking with yourself. For example learn and evaluate yourself or making decision.

After that, we learned about communication models. There are many types of communication models in the world. But that day we only learn 2 of the most used communication models that are linear model communication and interaction view of communication.

Linear communication model is one of the most used communication models. It is a one way communication and has no possible way for a feedback. Mass communication, listening to a speech, reading news paper are examples of linear communication.

Interactional view of communication is that each of us is a sender and also receiver. The individual sends the messages and also receives the messages as a feedback.

Furthermore, one of the subtopics that caught my eyes is the component of human communication. It is very interesting to find out how people communicate, how the communication process works.  Basically there are 6 component in human communication.

Source receiver  =>  Message => Feedback and feedforward message => Channel => Noise => Effect




Another very interesting word I learned was feedforward. I only know feedback so far. The meaning of feedforward is somehow another way of response, it's like a pretext to the context .

Next we have the purpose of human communication.

1. To help

2. To discover

3. To relate

4. To persuade

5. To play

Last but not least, we had a little activity in class before it ends. So we was divided into groups by row. We have to find out how a group of deaf and mute, and a group of blind people communicate with each other. All of a sudden, the lecture had chosen me and on of my friend to demonstrate to the class. The idea we used was very simple. My friend is deaf and I am blind. So she wrote "I love you" to the google translate and press the translate button with sound so I can hear.

Introduction Day

Everyone knows that the first day of your new semester is an introduction class or ice breaking session, right? Well mostly. The only thing that i could remember other than the noises inside the class, and introduction to our new human communication.. is the blog that we have to do. It's not surprising... it's shocking, this is because I used to blog very much, more like a blog addict, non-stop. After that my parents took my computer away and stop me from blogging ever since.. it has been at least 4 years since i opened my blog. However, I think the syllabus will be much more easier than phycology of adjustment that I took last semester. So we will have our mid term exam on the 14 of June 2014, and it's a friday. It's still a long way there, right? And of course our quiz is on the 15th of July. Still, the only thing i could think of is this. Lol.

So we have to do the blog and it consist of 10 marks in our internal marks. Also that day went a little bit crazy. I can remember that the lecture told us that we're a bunch of happy go lucky people. LOL. :)