Chapter 9..

After that lesson we venture into a new chapter which was very interesting. It is chapter 9, friends, lovers and family. First we learn about friendship. Friendship consist of a interpersonal relationship, it must be mutually productive because you have to talk with your friends to build good relationship in that friendship. It is also characterised by positive regards like trust, emotional support and  sharing interest together with each other.

There are three types of friendship we learn which are:

a) The friendship of reciprocity
This is an example of close friends, we share equally in giving and receiving the benefits and rewards in our relationship.

b) The friendship of receptivity
This consists of one person giving and one person receiving. For example, our lecture teaches us and we are receiving the knowledge.

c) The friendship of association
This is similar like the first one, but this kind of friendship does not consist of trust, loyalty, or equally shared relationship. For example, our classmates, neighbour or co-worker.

Furthermore, we learn about the reason for us to seek out friendship and close relationship. There are five reason, the first one which is utility purpose. Sometimes we need helps from our friends like when we do not know how to do our homework we seek out to our friends to help us out. This is to help you to achieve a specific goal. The second one is ego support. We have good and bad times in life, we need friends to support us during our sad times and they might have to ability to encourage us or to support us. And the third one is affirmation. We need friends to help us recognise our attribution, we do not know how good are we or how bad are we, so we need friends to help us recognise ourselves. Then it comes to stimulation. This will help you to expand your idea, they will give you idea and help you to expand your point of view. Lastly security, this is when your friends does nothing to hurt you and does not judge or call attention to your weakness.

The value of friendship will also be affected by culture, gender difference and technology. A different culture would bring different meaning. When you are with your friends you might think that it is good. But some would think that it is a distraction for your work or studies. Other than that, male and female have different point of view in relationships and friendships. Men are sometimes more keen to develop friendship but not true friend. For female are able to keep in touch with other girls friend but tend to get jealous easy. Men would also share less secret compare with females, one of the major reasons is because of ego. Friendship in technology are good for keeping in touch, but nowadays people do not just ignore their friends in the social network but prefer to have online chat rather than meeting up. This will also ruin peoples friendship.

Then we learn in the class is about romantic relationship. There are 6 types of love:

1.Eros : This is a love that people desire to have, this will refer to one's physical attraction or beauty and appearance. Mostly sex and lust becomes the result in this relationships.

2.Ludus : This is a relationship that people seeking for pleasure excitement. This kind of relationships are usually more on guys, they will tend to seek temporary fun and excitement to fulfil their wants and needs. For example friends with benefits, only pleasure seeking and nothing more.

3.Storge : This relationship is peaceful and slow. It is seeking for love but not passionate one. For example, the kings daughter have to get married with the prince even if they do not love each other.

4.Pragma : This relationship is practical by the traditional people. Parents would concern weather that guy could afford to buy you a house or can afford to support your family.

5.Mania :  This kind of relationships would have worries and depress, but at the same time the relationships is still going. For example, you are worried that your boyfriend only like you because you are rich, will he go for other girls if other girls is prettier or richer?

6.Agape : This relationship consist of unconditional love. This relationship has no favour or does not think about benefits like pragma. For example, a parents love their child unconditionally, the baby does not produce anything for their parents but their parents have to take care of the baby.

Lastly we learn about family, there are three types of families:

1. Traditional couples: The conventional form of a family, they shared values, beliefs, tolerance for one another.

2. Independent couples: Individuals in this family setting stresses individuality as the main theme in the family. Nowadays this is how the modern family is.

3. Separate couples: Family setting is not really a family but either one in this family stay together for a common benefit like paying the rent, sharing living space.