Chapter 4 continues...

The class continues, we learned more about the chapter "The self". We learned about self disclosure.  At first I thought that self disclosure was only revealing your own self, tell others about yourself. Then I only know that self disclosure is actually an act of telling others about things that they would not know about you. Self disclosure plays an important role of being true to yourself.

So after the lecture explained all about the basics things of self disclosure, we further it to the factors that will influence our self disclosure. There are 5 factors that will affect your self disclosure, firstly is who you are, your culture, your gender, your listeners, either in small groups or large groups, and lastly your topics and channels. The advantage you can get from self disclosure is that you can gain confident from it, other than that you will lose trust and confident if things goes wrong, you might even live with regrets. So that day during this lecture class I learn that self disclosure is very important and I learned that not to simply revealed my self too much to new friends.

So before the class ended the lecture gave us a little activity in the class, the chosen one will have to to tell each other about what they think about each other in front of everyone.

Chapter 4

This chapter is all about self ! Self-concept, self-awareness, self-esteem, self-disclosure. First thing is about self concept, "it is how you feel about yourself." It is the image of who you are.

These are the facts that will affects your self-concept:
1. Social Comparison
-we compare ourself and adjust our self towards the way that society act and thinks. For example, if the society thinks that smoking weeds is awesome, there is a chance that we might follow. When we followed, our self-concept will be ruin because of smoking weeds.

2. Other’s Images of you
-we compare ourself with our friends, family. For example, we tend to ask our friend for their quiz marks if we get high, this is because we want to seek for comparison.

3. Self interpretations & evaluations
-the standards that applies towards your ethical and moral reasoning, beliefs and comprehension and conformity things around you. Some people think that lying is okay, it is part of everyday life. And some might think lying is wrong.

After that we learned about self-awareness. Self-awareness are the things that you know about yourself. A process of discovering your personal development and understanding.

This is the Johari Window. Some of us learn this during the last semester on the oral communication. But after the class I learned more about this Johari Window. There are 4 different windows in the Johari Window. On the top left is called open arena, it is known by self and know by others, meaning to say that it is known to everyone and to you, for example your hair is brown colour. Then one the lower left is called the facade, no one knows but yourself. It is your hidden self, for example something that only you know like you made up a story that you are very rich but only you yourself know that your are poor and you don't want to show that to anyone. Then there is the blind spot, the top right. It is known by others but unknown by yourself. For example you might do something annoying when your nervous but you don't realise it but everyone in the class does. And lastly there is the unknown on the lower right, it is unknown by self and by others. For example, a natural ability to roll your tongue that you and other people didn't realise yet.

And here are the 4 steps to grow in your self awareness.
1.Listen to others
2.Increase your open self
3.Seek information about yourself

4.Dialogue with yourself

After that we learned about self esteem. It is the most interesting part in this class for me. It means the confident or the level of trust towards yourself. In this class I learned that it is good that we can have high self esteem but don't over it, because too much could be bad for you if you didn't achieve it.

And here are the 4 facts to increase your self esteem
1.Attack self-destructive belief
2.Seek out Nourishing people
3.Work on project that will result in success
4.Remind yourself of your success
5.Secure affirmation

Before the class ended the lecture gave us a small task. We need to list down the characteristic of those who have high self esteem and low self esteem. We have to compare and contrast it. This is only half of the chapter, we stopped here and the class will continue on tomorrow, I was very excited for tomorrows class because I'm very interesting in this chapter 4.

Chapter 3..

This chapter is all about listening. Listening is very important i guess, but after i learn about this chapter i felt that listening is as important as interpreting the message the right way. Listening is a specialised process, it is a type of perception which you receive auditory signals from spoken words or even non verbal message. After that i only know that hearing and listening are both different things. Hearing is just the basic step of receiving sound and it is not the same as listening.

The picture above are the 5 stages of listening. After the lecture explained to us how every stages works, the lecture asked us to memorise these words in 2 minutes. I actually memorise 17 of them, actually how did I memorise so many words in just 2 minutes? Our minds can summarise the message in easier ways for us to remember and we repeat the keywords and names to remember them. Some we categorise them into groups to make us remember them clearly.

After that, we learned about diversity of listening & culture.
1.Language and speech
-different people who use different language or culture are a difference in meaning.

2.Non-verval behavioral differences
-people from different culture have their own display of rules. For example, for some countries  showing middle finger is just a normal non-verbal message, not a bad one. But for most of the countries showing our middle finger are bad.

3.Direct and indirect styles
-direct style is saying what you mean. For indirect styles, people usually turn a big circle to tell someone that they are wrong. For example, your brother did wrong and you didn't wanted to hurt his feelings so you turn a big circle to tell him that he is wrong instead of saying it directly.

4.Balance of story versus evidence
-in other countries, people want evidence before making decisions rather than critical thinking

5.Credibility
-culture will depends weather a speaker will be credibility or not.

6.feedback
-for some people they would give a direct and honest, 'truth' feedback. It could be positive and it could be negative. But some other culture thinks that it is more important to give only 'positive' feedback weather the situation is positive or negative. They want the feedback to be positive rather than truthful.

Other than that, there are 4 ways that we can listen effectively. One of them are participatory and passive listening. The key to effective listening is to participate, either physically or mentally. Secondly is emphatic and objective listening, meaning + feelings = emphaty
Emphatic listening is a means for both increasing understanding and for enhancing relationships. Furthermore, there are nonjudgmental and critical listening. Effective listening includes both nonjudgmental and critical responses. For example, we open our mind to learn things from our lecture, to understand the message and then evaluate them or to judge the message weather knowledge the knowledge is useful to us. Then there is this surface and depth listening, for example, do your like my new shirt? That person could be asking about his or her appearance.

So the next class continues.. We learn about perception, which is in chapter 2. Perception is continuous process of life, the impression that others give you and what you project to others. Perception is one of the most important element in communication. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DadIBPZVaNE

The video above shows us that we cannot judge too quickly and everything about perception.

The lecture shown us some pictures and ask us about our perception. Some students in the class may see more than one thing, and some may see differently. Here are some of the pictures that the lecture shown us.

So what can you see from this picture? Some may say it is a cup? Some said it has two faces facing each other. From my first sight I only saw the two faces, until the lecture told us it has another picture in it only that I knew.

From the left, some may see a guy playing saxophone, and some may see a lady's face. And from the right, some may see an old lady, and some may see a sweet lady looking back. I only saw  the lady looking back, but until the lecture told us about the nose of that old lady, then i only realise.

We also learn that the 5 things that will influence your perception.

Processes influencing perception
1. Implicit personality theory
=> Your own opinion about something else or someone's characteristics. This is also known as halo effect.

2. The self-fulfilling prophecy
=> People who have bad traits may make other thinks that they are bad, and may bring a bad influence to you. But this is only what you think. It might not be true. This is known as reverse halo effect.

3. Primacy-recency
=> It makes prediction and then proceed to fulfillment

4. Consistency
=> Expected things from someone to have characteristic like that.

5. Attribution
=> The process through which people discover why people do what they do.

So lastly the lecture put us into small group and questioned us "How to make perception more accurate?" So all of us came out with a lots of different answers. The answer that the lecture gave are analyse impression, check perception, reduce uncertainty and increase culture sensitivity.

Charpter 1

So after the first day of class, the second day was the first lecture. I already learned that communication is the process of conveying message by sending and receiving, but i don't know is "human communication". So human communication is actually focus on understanding how people communicate in different ways . For example spoken words, body language, facial language, emotions and many more. I found out that communication skills is needed for many things. Asking for direction, interviewing for a job, and even meeting your lover, all of these requires communication skills.

I know that interpersonal communication require more than 2 or more people, but after this class today, i only know that Intrapersonal communication is actually talking with yourself. For example learn and evaluate yourself or making decision.

After that, we learned about communication models. There are many types of communication models in the world. But that day we only learn 2 of the most used communication models that are linear model communication and interaction view of communication.

Linear communication model is one of the most used communication models. It is a one way communication and has no possible way for a feedback. Mass communication, listening to a speech, reading news paper are examples of linear communication.

Interactional view of communication is that each of us is a sender and also receiver. The individual sends the messages and also receives the messages as a feedback.

Furthermore, one of the subtopics that caught my eyes is the component of human communication. It is very interesting to find out how people communicate, how the communication process works.  Basically there are 6 component in human communication.

Source receiver  =>  Message => Feedback and feedforward message => Channel => Noise => Effect




Another very interesting word I learned was feedforward. I only know feedback so far. The meaning of feedforward is somehow another way of response, it's like a pretext to the context .

Next we have the purpose of human communication.

1. To help

2. To discover

3. To relate

4. To persuade

5. To play

Last but not least, we had a little activity in class before it ends. So we was divided into groups by row. We have to find out how a group of deaf and mute, and a group of blind people communicate with each other. All of a sudden, the lecture had chosen me and on of my friend to demonstrate to the class. The idea we used was very simple. My friend is deaf and I am blind. So she wrote "I love you" to the google translate and press the translate button with sound so I can hear.

Introduction Day

Everyone knows that the first day of your new semester is an introduction class or ice breaking session, right? Well mostly. The only thing that i could remember other than the noises inside the class, and introduction to our new human communication.. is the blog that we have to do. It's not surprising... it's shocking, this is because I used to blog very much, more like a blog addict, non-stop. After that my parents took my computer away and stop me from blogging ever since.. it has been at least 4 years since i opened my blog. However, I think the syllabus will be much more easier than phycology of adjustment that I took last semester. So we will have our mid term exam on the 14 of June 2014, and it's a friday. It's still a long way there, right? And of course our quiz is on the 15th of July. Still, the only thing i could think of is this. Lol.

So we have to do the blog and it consist of 10 marks in our internal marks. Also that day went a little bit crazy. I can remember that the lecture told us that we're a bunch of happy go lucky people. LOL. :)